tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post1224367119015284065..comments2024-01-08T10:14:06.966-08:00Comments on Mary's Writing Nook: Going With the FlowMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-81208444007159063652011-08-28T06:39:43.348-07:002011-08-28T06:39:43.348-07:00OK, I'm gonna be REALLY blunt.
This sounds ex...OK, I'm gonna be REALLY blunt.<br /><br />This sounds exactly like early Alzheimers. Especially the anger over the useless items. <br /><br />Go and find all her family photographs. Store them or copies of them somewhere she can't get to...because the 2nd thing that children find cleaning out a parent's home is that the parent has slowly thrown away all photos that they "didn't know who that was" at the moment.<br /><br />I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I'm sorry to be blunt.MightyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02563721884001643857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-27877599137092339892011-08-26T17:36:00.591-07:002011-08-26T17:36:00.591-07:00OMG -Mary,
I'm sure that this is very hard fo...OMG -Mary,<br /><br />I'm sure that this is very hard for you...But, I'm kind of thinking like Anni - it's difficult to be independent and then have to rely on someone else...I know, I've been there. But for your Mom, she is old and set in her ways. She's spent a lifetime collecting her things - those things, even the newspapers, are bits and pieces of her life.<br /><br />And now, you having to live with your parent again - I know that's hard on you too.<br /><br />Compromise is the only answer - but health-wise, there should be no compromise. Mold can destroy your lungs and cause other very serious health problems - even death.<br /><br />Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers..Deborah Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05874951426927082730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-32596217152432525562011-08-26T04:00:18.412-07:002011-08-26T04:00:18.412-07:00First, neither the mold or her attitude is healthy...First, neither the mold or her attitude is healthy for ANYone involved. Maybe, just maybe if you talk to her and discuss like adults instead of feuding adolescents you may find out she is having difficulties having someone move into HER territory also. It's not easy for either side, I'm sure.<br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://hootin--anni.blogspot.com/2011/08/theres-good-news-and-then-theres-good.html" rel="nofollow">Good news and some MORE good news</a> is my Friday post. Hope your weekend goes smoothly!!!Hootin Annihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08811326085498312568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-35129388637042138152011-08-25T16:00:41.643-07:002011-08-25T16:00:41.643-07:00Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry this is happening. I ca...Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry this is happening. I can see why you would be having second thoughts about moving in with her. Not just because of her attitude but with all that mold and mildew in the house, it's not a very healthy place to live!! Your mom definitely does sound like she is a hoarder and being a sickness, trying to talk her into getting rid of stuff will continue being very difficult. Have you asked her if she wants to keep all her junk, complete with mold, or have you move in with her so that she can stay in the house? Give her that ultimatum and see what she says. Big hugs going your way. Will try to call you tomorrow, hoping for a quiet day:-) Been canning and pickling the last 2 days...go away for 4 days and the garden decides to go nuts! lol xoxoCarole Buranthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497329055251626140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-82510253546140801492011-08-25T15:04:19.771-07:002011-08-25T15:04:19.771-07:00Sorry to hear about the unpleasantness. I would su...Sorry to hear about the unpleasantness. I would suggest that someone take her on an errand and you can get rid of what needs to be done. My father's house was like that and I wish I had been more assertive when he was alive because it was a BIG JOB when he was gone. My prayers go with you. PeaceLady Di Tnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314994067842063387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-43731875831889091932011-08-25T10:38:20.004-07:002011-08-25T10:38:20.004-07:00Whoa... I can see myself in your mom... I'm ch...Whoa... I can see myself in your mom... I'm checking out Tina's link... I have no suggestions. I thought it might be difficult to move in with your mom and it would be just as hard to have her move in with you. I hope you get it worked out to everyone's satisfaction. ((((hugs))))annhttp://everlastingmercy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-68340551847364690102011-08-24T06:35:36.373-07:002011-08-24T06:35:36.373-07:00Sorry to hear this, Mary. It sounds like your moth...Sorry to hear this, Mary. It sounds like your mother has a problem with hoarding. If that is the case, it will continue to be very difficult to get her to part with things, even musty old newspapers. Here's a link to the Mayo Clinic's info on hoarding:<br />http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/hoarding/DS00966<br />If she is suffering from this, maybe you could get some tips from others who have loved ones with this problem.Tina Coruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12213204013140850537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-13374567589694735752011-08-24T03:44:22.156-07:002011-08-24T03:44:22.156-07:00You might want to have a long talk with her when e...You might want to have a long talk with her when emotions aren't running hot although I suspect that her mind may not be where it once was. I also suspect that moving in with Mom might be difficult.Anvilcloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.com