tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post2913412591355872898..comments2024-01-08T10:14:06.966-08:00Comments on Mary's Writing Nook: Woman to Woman: Dealing with GriefMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-73668624243011451362007-10-24T17:32:00.000-07:002007-10-24T17:32:00.000-07:00morning glory,I was glad to join the forum. Grief ...morning glory,<BR/><BR/>I was glad to join the forum. Grief is something we all have to deal with at one time or another during our lives. I hope the forum helps those who are grieving.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-68078871723099041692007-10-24T14:49:00.000-07:002007-10-24T14:49:00.000-07:00Thank you for joining in on the forum this week. ...Thank you for joining in on the forum this week. Grieving is certainly a huge process when it touches our lives. I, too, am grateful for a faith that guides me through it.someone elsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524255841655400982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-55769852243082642392007-10-24T09:05:00.000-07:002007-10-24T09:05:00.000-07:00Merle,The boys know they can talk to me about anyt...Merle,<BR/><BR/>The boys know they can talk to me about anything. I've always told them that I will listen and try to teach them how to cope with problems. I don't do everything for them, as they need to learn to solve their own problems, but I do listen and give advice. When talking about subjects such as death, I try to use the wisdom my grandmother and mother taught me. <BR/><BR/>I love your jokes. They alway brighten my day.<BR/><BR/>Bless you, sweet Merle.<BR/><BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-32740585125913154322007-10-24T09:03:00.000-07:002007-10-24T09:03:00.000-07:00Paula,Dad died in 1981. For many years I would sta...Paula,<BR/><BR/>Dad died in 1981. For many years I would start to say, "I'll get Dad to do that for me," and then realize that he was gone. Dad taught me many lessons and prepared me for the time when he would no longer be here. However, even after all these years, I still miss him.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-38440532792518678532007-10-24T09:01:00.000-07:002007-10-24T09:01:00.000-07:00Linda,My grandmother taught me to accept things as...Linda,<BR/><BR/>My grandmother taught me to accept things as they are. She always told me that God's timing is perfect. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for your kind words about teaching the boys about death. I would like them to be prepared when they lose those that they love. My maternal great-grandfather, when he was dying, that he would be leaving me to go to a better place. I was very young but remember him well. He prepared me for his passing. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for visiting. I enjoyed your comments.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-85396159093690083742007-10-24T08:59:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:59:00.000-07:00lady di,You have suffered many losses, as I have. ...lady di,<BR/><BR/>You have suffered many losses, as I have. You have a good outlook on death and grieving. I will be praying for your cousin.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-66402931177680065612007-10-24T08:58:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:58:00.000-07:00Angela,Thank you so much for your thoughtful comme...Angela,<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I'm glad that you agree that we live on through the lives of those who love us.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-47446956946828306672007-10-24T08:56:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:56:00.000-07:00cynthia, Bless you for teaching your children to a...cynthia, <BR/><BR/>Bless you for teaching your children to accept that which cannot be changed. They will always remember what they saw and I'm grateful that they will have some vision. I keep you in my prayers.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-85289475928121078582007-10-24T08:55:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:55:00.000-07:00Michelle,Yes, death is a part of life and when we ...Michelle,<BR/><BR/>Yes, death is a part of life and when we accept it, our losses are less devastating. <BR/><BR/>Hope you have a wonderful day.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-14417470378620479272007-10-24T08:54:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:54:00.000-07:00Philip,Things that happen when we are young certai...Philip,<BR/><BR/>Things that happen when we are young certainly have bearing on what we make of our lives. I'm sorry for your loss so many years ago. However, I do believe that these experiences give us wisdom and strength.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for dropping by. I'm always happy to hear from you.<BR/><BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-82793138266829272822007-10-24T08:03:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:03:00.000-07:00Dear Mary ~~ I share the same thoughts as you abou...Dear Mary ~~ I share the same thoughts as you about death being part of life. And you are so wise and wonderful to talk to your grandsons<BR/>about death and many other subjects.<BR/>Thank you for your comments, I am so<BR/>glad that the jokes start your day with a chuckle. Takce care, Love, Merle.Merlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05763778255535640633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-43653267487584043852007-10-24T07:40:00.000-07:002007-10-24T07:40:00.000-07:00My Mom died suddenly at the young age of 54 from a...My Mom died suddenly at the young age of 54 from a heart attack. I remember for months feeling like their was a black hole in my chest and nothing would ever fill that space again. Over the years that space has closed up a bit, but if I stop for a minute and reflect on it, that hole is still there and just as deep as ever. I do think that I went through the classic steps of grief - denial, anger, etc... Even these 9 years later there are times when I catch myself thinking "I need to tell Mom that", before I realize that she is not just a phone call away. Those moments are few now, but I think our loved ones never truly leave us.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17016439610436864684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-19042452746732596072007-10-24T07:37:00.000-07:002007-10-24T07:37:00.000-07:00Without faith how could any of us make it through ...Without faith how could any of us make it through life? I like the way you explained death to you grandson.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03150759324714163516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-57350248842146741522007-10-24T06:24:00.000-07:002007-10-24T06:24:00.000-07:00MaryThanks for sharing. When I was a young woman j...Mary<BR/>Thanks for sharing. When I was a young woman just out of high school I lost the first true love of my life, My Marteral Grandpa. Even after all these years when I think about the PAIN of lost, I get tears in my eyes.<BR/><BR/>My Mother died in 98 and she had been sick for over three years and in the hospital more than home. So I miss her but would not wish her back to suffer more. <BR/><BR/>Dad was always afraid of death and when he died suddenly in 2005, again I saw that as a blessing. <BR/><BR/>Now we have this wonderful young cousin, see story on my blog dated 4-26-07, and death is near as she now has to have someone with her at all times. <BR/><BR/>I think you are so kind to explain to the children about death.<BR/><BR/>PeaceLady Di Tnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314994067842063387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-89894729074095245642007-10-24T05:44:00.000-07:002007-10-24T05:44:00.000-07:00Mary, I totally agree with what you said-There is...Mary,<BR/> I totally agree with what you said-There is a time for everything and God in His wisdom knows the perfect timing for both birth and death. Therefore, my grief is diminished because of my trust in Him.<BR/><BR/>We can keep those who have passed on alive through our memories and photos.<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for sharing.<BR/><BR/>Have a wonderful day filled with lots of love and laughter!<BR/>AngelaGranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15008087580310335512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-44971897791780241402007-10-23T23:40:00.000-07:002007-10-23T23:40:00.000-07:00I share your opinion on death. We have been dealin...I share your opinion on death. <BR/><BR/>We have been dealing with our own kind of grief as the children lose their vision. In this sense I try to teach them, the loss is never total. No, they cannot see as they did before; but their memories of what they saw will always be there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-8170120220723917382007-10-23T22:40:00.000-07:002007-10-23T22:40:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing your wisdom and feelings on ...Thank you for sharing your wisdom and feelings on death, Mary. It is really a touchy subject and a sad one that many people run from, but in the end it is something we must all accept.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MicheleMichele | aka Raw Juice Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157347090741037452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-10004514725049769192007-10-23T22:07:00.000-07:002007-10-23T22:07:00.000-07:00I lost several friends in my teens to sudden death...I lost several friends in my teens to sudden death. I was always one to try to make sense out of life and its meaning. These experiences of loss contributed a little to be going int to the ministry.Tossing Pebbles in the Streamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04354065895900279070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-40580885189440017902007-10-23T20:49:00.000-07:002007-10-23T20:49:00.000-07:00Thank you, Denise. I am keeping you in my prayers....Thank you, Denise. I am keeping you in my prayers.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-91316875696029394252007-10-23T20:07:00.000-07:002007-10-23T20:07:00.000-07:00Thanks for sharing your feelings, enjoyed reading ...Thanks for sharing your feelings, enjoyed reading this.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-1397204965352318592007-10-23T19:12:00.000-07:002007-10-23T19:12:00.000-07:00Ruth,Death is a part of life and the boys need to ...Ruth,<BR/><BR/>Death is a part of life and the boys need to know that. When we accept death as part of life, we diminish the pain of grieving somewhat. I will talk with the boys about whatever subject they wish. The older boy and I have even discussed puberty when he asked me questions about it. I would not start such a conversation, but do talk to them openly about whatever they'd like to discuss. <BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for your visits. I enjoy your comments and value your opinions.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175754179624182953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7944740176048431569.post-24680263963840581382007-10-23T19:05:00.000-07:002007-10-23T19:05:00.000-07:00The subject of dying is taboo in our culture. Yet ...The subject of dying is taboo in our culture. Yet it is an important passage that we all take, just as we are all born, as you mention. I work with dying people and most of them need to talk about it, but not many people will listen. You do well to talk naturally to your grandson about death.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15892804871759397018noreply@blogger.com