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Saturday, December 8

Grandma and Grandson Time... and Prayers Needed

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All of my regular readers will already know that I love spending time with my grandsons. Well, last night about 9 pm, the phone rang. It was Brandon. Younger brother, Jordan, had gone to stay overnight at his friend's and Brandon wanted to know if he could come here. Grandpa and I agreed that would be just fine.

He arrived close to 10 pm. He wanted to play a game of Mario Baseball and I agreed. This is one video game that Grandma can at least score a point or two in. We decided to play a short game of 5 innings. At the end of the 4th, we were tied 2/2 . I didn't score in the 5th inning, but Brandon did, so he won 3/2. This isn't bad for me, as I'm not a real video person.

This morning we got up, had breakfast and decided it was time for Brandon to go and buy his brother something for Christmas. We do this every year. I take each of the boys, give them a limit on spending and they chose something for the other. Grandpa decided to come along and we headed out of town to a Wal Mart that is about 20 minutes away. Brandon was looking for the hot new toy of the year, Bakugan.

Just before we left, my daughter, Michelle, called. She told me that my son-in-law has taken a job an hour from here and that they will be moving. That means that the boys and I will not be spending as much time together. We see each other between two and four times a week.

As soon as we got into Wal Mart, he headed for the toy department and the aisle where these neat little toys are usually stocked. Not a one! But Grandma spotted them on an end. Brandon was delighted and picked out two for his brother. These are VERY hard to find, so I told him to pick out two for himself, which he could not have until Christmas. In the meantime I will talk Jordan into giving them to his brother for Christmas. They love these little toys.

We had just returned home and were sitting at the table talking when Brandon looked at me and said, "Grandma, what are YOU going to do when we move. You spend most of your time with Jordan and I." And he started to cry.

I hugged him and we both cried. I explained that we would still maintain a close relationship, but it would be somewhat different. He told me he doesn't want to go. I didn't tell him that I don't want them to move either. I have been a second mother to the boys ever since they were born. It breaks my heart. When I first learned that they might be moving, I was devastated and depressed. However, I've put it all in God's hands. It will take a while for the move to take place and anything can happen. Please pray that if this move is God's Will, that he will help the boys and I accept the change and learn to enjoy a relationship without living seven minutes away from each other.

My friends and readers will also remember that Brandon has Asperger's Syndrome, which is on the autism spectrum. Any change is hard for him and this is going to be a difficult time for him to get through. Please pray for him that he will make this transition without it greatly affecting him. Blessings, ~Mary~

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37 comments:

  1. Dear Mary,
    I will pray for you and Brandon.. because I know how hard it is for a grandmother to say good by to her grandchildren when they move to another state...
    but the phone calls are wonderful...
    and grand children love love love to get mail from their Mimi's...
    it will be hard... but you are up to the challenge and God will help you to make it easier for the boys!!
    {{Hugs}} and prayers my friend...
    Mimi

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  2. I have been praying, and will pray even harder my dear friend. I know how very much you love your grandsons, and they love you with all of their hearts. If this is Gods will, I pray that He will guide you all through the move. You are such a wonderful grandmother, your love will never leave them. Bless you my friend, I love you.

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  3. Oh my Dear, my heart goes out to you, at this time. I so hope all will work out best. And that all will be able to handle, whatever the final outcome is...

    And if it's any help, we your friends in blog land are always here... If you need to say anything... we are here to listen. And to hold your hand, in Cyber. It's not like really holding your hand, but I'm sure you can feel the love. Even if it is in Cyber.

    Many warm hugs,
    Mari-Nanci

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  4. Mimi,

    You are a dear! I will certainly miss the boys but have explained that we will remain close, though things will be a little different. Thank you so much for your vote of confidence and your prayers.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  5. Denise,

    I thank you for your prayers both past and future. I do hope that this is God's will.

    Thank you for your love and support, my friend.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  6. Mari-Nancy,

    You don't know how much your loving words and support mean to me. This is going to be very difficult for Brandon, especially and for Jordan and I as well.

    Holding my hand is Cyber is such a comfort. Thank you so much for your friendship.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  7. What a blessing, this great relationship you have with your Grandsons, but it must be so costly all around to see them move, especially for the wee one who struggles with change. Our son had huge issues with change when he was younger and showed quite a few aspergers symptoms in his behaviour. God is doing a great work in his life and he is coping with change amazingly well now - we thank God for it. I pray that your Grandson has a wonderful grace to cope too. My parents have only ever seen my children twice, once when we visited with my son in April 2002 for a week, and once with both children when we visited for a week in September 2004, but God has given us all a wonderful grace to deal with this and my husband has his parents living in the same City as us. I will keep you all in my prayers.

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  8. Oh dear Mary, I can well imagine how hard this will be for you and the boys, especially Brandon. My friend June practically raised her grandson JJ and when he and his mom moved 4 hours away, she was devastated as he was but it was God's will and they've adjusted. My prayers are certainly with you...any kind of change like that is hard. You know we are here for you!! xoxo

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  9. Mary,this is sad news,who knows what can happen before the big move! I will be praying for you and the boys, your daughter and son in law.
    I will start praying for peace in your heart and the boys heart, too.That if they do move it can be done with everyone working on making the best of it while they move. That you will be able to go see the boys often enough that they won't feel so homesick for you and all the things they are familar with. Like every one said we will be here to help you!! Love and Hugs Carolyn

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  10. Karen,

    Thanks so much for your encouraging words and your love and support. You are very much appreciated.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  11. Pea,

    When I first heard about this job about a month ago, I was devastated and feel into a depression for a couple of days. Then, through blogging and praying, I put it all in God's hands. He will help us through the transition. I ask that you pray for Brandon and thank you for your love and support.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  12. Grams,

    Thank you for your prayers, your encouraging words and your love and support. I don't know what I would do without all my wonderful blogging buddies.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  13. Oh, Mary, you'll most certainly be at the top of my prayer list! I pray you all remain in God's perfect will--hopefully that will somehow work out to be that you remain seven minutes from each other. If it has to be the other way, I pray God makes the transition for all of you as smooth as possible...

    Many prayers and (((CYBER HUGS)))

    Michele

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  14. Mary I am so sorry.
    I have enjoyed your post and the times you spend with your grandsons.
    I will pray for you and the boys.
    I am glad that ya'll are going to have this time coming up on your trip to Florida.
    You are a special grandmother. The boys are blessed to have you.
    I pray God will make a way where there seems none.
    I also pray for the transition time.
    (((hugs)))
    love you girl

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  15. Thanks for stopping by my place, I will be checking your site out.

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  16. As I don't have Grand Children yet and hope I don't have any for 5 years or so.
    But I remember having a loving relationship with my grand parents.
    Plus seeing others having one with there grandkids.

    I know things happen in our life that at that time we may not understand what is up.

    But I think your wise to put it in god hands and I'll say a pray for you and your family.

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  17. Michele,

    Your prayers mean a lot to me. I have put this in God's hands and trust Him in all things for our good.

    Love and hugs,
    Mary

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  18. Sharon,

    Your words and prayers mean so much to me. We WILL have a great time in Florida and in spite of Brandon and I having a little cry together, we did have a wonderful time while he was here.

    Thanks for your love and support.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  19. Sarge Charlie,

    Welcome! I certainly enjoyed visiting your site and have added you to my blogroll.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  20. Peppylady,

    I have cared for the boys since they were babies and will certainly miss them if it is God's will that they move. However, with His help we will prevail and continue to have a close relationship.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  21. Good Evening Mary,
    We just got home a bit ago and it didn't "Rain on our Parade". It was foggy tho and on the chilly side. I did take a couple of pictures with my cell phone and of them in the Church Christmas Program. I will probably post about it on Monday since we have a busy day tomorrow. I am sorry to hear that your daughter, son-in-law, and grandson's will be moving away from you. I pray that God will intervene and take total charge of the situation. Like you said, anything can happen. I also pray that if it's in God's will for them to move, that God will give you all a peace and that the move will be smooth and the boys will adjust to the move especially Brandon. I hope you will get to have just as much time if not more with them. Just let go, and let GOD. He will show you the way. Thank you so much for the sweet comment you left on my blog and the email. I am feeling lots better and I am NOT going to quit blogging. I enjoy it too much. Well, take care my friend and have a great evening. May God Bless You and Yours. I will keep you and your family in my prayers as well.

    Hugs,
    Karen H.

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  22. Mary - when I started reading this post, I was touched by the bond you and Brandon share. Then I read your news and knew how hard this is for both of you. I will pray for your family and that God's will is done.

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  23. Karen,

    Yah! You're going to continue blogging and that is GREAT! I'm so glad to hear it.

    Yes, it is with God now. Who knows what will happen. He is in charge as I've handed it totally over to him.

    Thanks so much for the prayers and I will keep you and your family in mine.

    Love and blessings,
    Mary

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  24. Mari,

    Thanks so much for your kind words of love and support. I appreciate your prayers.

    Love and blessings,
    Mary

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  25. What a sweet and thoughful heart that little boy has to be concerned about you. You must have been moved to tears. Someone loves their Grandma, that's for sure!

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  26. Edge of Design,

    Yes, when Brandon said that, Grandma's heart melted and she was crying right along with him. He hasn't seen me cry very often, but we are of one heart and we will miss each other dreadfully. However, I am going to check the train schedule. I think I recall that it goes through a town not far from where they'll be moving. And who knows... Maybe the move will never take place. God is in control and He will help us through this.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  27. Dear friend, of course I'll pray for you and your family in this situation. As you said, lots can change in the meantime, but if it's God's will that they move, He'll prepare your hearts and comfort you all.

    Love and big ((((HUGS))))

    Diane

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  28. oh my....... How my heart knows what you are feeling...... I have never had a relationship with my grand babies so I cannot imagine what it feels like for them to be moving......... I will pray that God close that door if it is not the one they are to go through.. those sweet little boys need their grandma.............

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  29. Diane,

    Thank you, my friend, for your prayers and words of love and support. Yes, it is all up to God now.

    Denise,

    Thank you as well for your prayers and words of love and support. God is in control and he will either close the door or he will give us the strength and wisdom to get through the transition. One thing we know for sure. Whatever happens, he is right beside us.

    Love you both.
    Blessings,
    Mary

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  30. Oh Mary, I'm bawling. It is SO hard for us grandparents. I know just what you're going through. Our oldest Grandson has Down Syndrome and it too did not settle with him when they moved away...so far away. Then, we moved to another state after retiring. It's just so hard. And as you say if it's God's Will --- let it be for the better!! It's gonna hurt like the dickens, but adjustments can be made and you can find that soon some great excursions will be in store. Weeks at a time can be had with them...it'll all work out.

    Still in the meantime, it's hard to take. God only gives us what we can handle. Believe me, I live by those words and it gives me strength when I'm down and out!!!

    Gentle hug.

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  31. Anni,

    You're such a dear! It's nice to know that others have also gone through this. I appreciate your sharing with me but I'm sorry that it made your cry.

    Yes, if it's God will, we will make the transition. If it's not, He has time to change things. The move won't take place for a while yet. So we will see if the door stays open or if it closes.

    Thanks you so much for that "gentle" hug. I certainly needed it.

    Love and blessings,
    Mary

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  32. Mary -- I'm saddened to learn news of the impending move. I'll hold you all in prayer during this transition that promises to be challenging for all concerned.
    Hugs and blessings,

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  33. Storyteller,

    Thank you so much for your prayers. They are very much appreciated.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  34. Mary,

    I'm so sorry that the boys will be moving. I can well imagine how difficult it will be for you and the boys. And as you said, this could be even more difficult for Brandon. You and the boys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Love and hugs,
    Tina

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  35. Mary,

    I'm sorry the boys will be moving. I will keep Brandon and you in my prayers. My granddaughters live 700 miles from me, but we're very close. I know your grandsons have always lived close to you, so it will be hard on you, and them. Especially Brandon. Lots of prayers will be said for him especially.

    Love and Hugs,

    Renie

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  36. Renie and Tina,

    Thank you both so much for your comforting words and your prayers. You love and compassion is very much appreciated.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  37. I know what it is like to have distance between grands and grams. My nearest are 3 1/2 to 4 hours away. I manage to visit once a month for about a week. If they were 1 hour away, I'd probably be able to go once a week. Its an adjustment but you'll find time to make quality visits.
    Mama Bear

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