Some of you have been asking about Aunt May. I tried to call her a few days ago, but there was no answer. I figured that she must still be out of town where she goes for her radiation and chemo treatments. I left a message asking her to call me when she felt up to it. Sunday afternoon the phone rang and she and I had quite a lengthy chat about life and death.
Aunt May went through five days of radiation in the middle of June for the lump on her spine. Last week she had two rounds of chemo. Her doctors are treating her cancer aggressively, but since she has a rare blood condition, the treatments make her weak. A couple of weeks ago, she had to have iron intravenously to bring her blood count up because they would not give her chemo while it was so low. Now it is low once again, so she will have to have more iron. This is very hard on her and they are wanting her to have two transfusions as well.
Years ago Aunt May had a horrific reaction to a transfusion and the doctors at that time told her she could never have another. When she went into the hospital with her broken leg in April 2007, the doctor ordered a transfusion for her. It just happened that hubby and I went to visit just before it was started. She said she would be fine, but I could tell by her eyes that she was terrified. I told her we would stay with her and we did. Luckily, there were no adverse effects, but once again she is frightened to have these transfusions. I told her it was her choice and not to let them do anything to her that she didn't want them to do.
As we talked, she told me that the cancer is now in her head and her liver. She knows that she is dying and told me it's just a matter of time. This saddened me because she is my favorite aunt and because she has experienced many health problems her entire life.
We discussed different things and I told her that I hated to see anyone lie in bed in excruitiating pain for weeks or months. I said I would prefer they were taken home before that happened. She was quite honest with me and said, "I fear that is what the end will be like for me."
I answered, "I pray not."
Her reply was, "You better pray hard."
She also voiced her desire that she would like to pass quickly. I think that is something that we all desire, but that wish isn't always granted.
So I am asking each of you to ask God to have mercy upon my Aunt May and take her home before she has to experience such pain. Her life has been hard and she deserves to die with dignity. I will keep you updated on her condition from time to time. Thanks in advance for your prayers, love and support. ~Blessings, Mary~
I'm praying, Mary. God bless your Aunt May, you and the whole family.
ReplyDeleteLove and big hugs,
Diane
I am lifting your precious aunt may up in my prayers sweetie. I love you.
ReplyDeleteI prayed for your Aunt.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you all with peace, provision, comfort and salvation for any and all of your family that do not know Jesus Christ as their savior.
Laura
Mary...... I am so sorry about your Aunt... You and I have talked many times regarding her and I wonder if you ever had a chance to tell her what I had said? I do not want to put much here but I am sure you understand... I will email latter today...
ReplyDeleteLove ya and I am praying..
I know and understand your feelings, your aunt's as well. Will keep her and you and your family in thought and prayers. Peace, Mary.
ReplyDeleteOh Mary..I will pray had for Aunt May..
ReplyDeleteand that God will have mercy
and she will be without much pain.
There is still time to enjoy life
and I hope she can
love you
Deena
Hi Mary,
ReplyDeleteBelieve me I can truly understand what you and your Aunt are feeling. I prayed those same prayers for my Grandpa for the last 12 weeks of his life. To see a loved one in pain, is just one of life's most difficult times.
My prayers are with you.
xo
My heart goes out to your dear Aunt May. I too had a favorite Aunt but she passed away several years ago. I was glad that she didn't linger too long and went home to be with the Lord before she experienced much pain. I will pray that the Lord would take Aunt May home soon. It sounds like she is ready. Also for you as it's so hard for the ones looking on too!
ReplyDeleteI'm praying for her.
ReplyDeleteI have to ask if she has Hospice involved. We have them for several of our patients and they are really good at keeping pain controlled.
I don't know about your health care system there. Here once patients are turned over to Hospice and taken home to die, they are given pain medicine to keep them comfortable. I hope your Aunt has signed her advanced directives for her wishes to be known. Sounds like it is only a matter of time. I have lifted up a prayer for peace for her and comfort from the great physician.
ReplyDeleteMama Bear
Mary,you are in my prayers as well as your Aunt May.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to my 2 sites and Posting a prayer request and linking back to here.The more prayers we generate the quicker God will answer them.God Bless and hold you and Aunt May in his hands ang give confort to you both.
My prayers are added with the others. May God bless her always!
ReplyDeleteMy prayers are with your aunt and that God's will be done. My mother dies of cancer to the lungs and it moved to her brain. She chose to stop taking the radiation they were doing. It was the most heart wrenching thing I have ever had to deal with and truly hope that your aunt is saved from having that experience.
ReplyDeleteI clicked over from MJG's Rambling Thoughts. I have added your Aunt May to my daily prayer list.
ReplyDeletePeace and blessings to you.
Of course, of course!!! Your Aunt May AND all the family will forever be in my thoughts and prayers.
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